My best friend and Maid of Honor is getting married after me and is having six bridesmaids, and I’m not one of them! I don’t mind this because it’s her wedding and I want her to be happy, but I’m really hurt as I felt she was the most important person to have in my bridal party and I’m not in hers! I wouldn’t dream of saying this to her, but how do I get over it? Please don’t say it’s selfish, because I know that, I’d rather have advice on how to get over it!

I was engaged for 8yrs & saw my pals loads. I would always be out with her & maybe go home at 12 to see my fiance. He eventually cheated, I was devastated & rang my pal to tell her. She said she didn’t like him anyway & for me not to talk about him. I only mentioned him once & she said ‘Shhh Don’t mention it, I don’t want to know, cos I’m getting married. She was only dating for a month& he is 10 yrs younger than her (his 1st girlfriend) I have asked her out loads but she doesn’t leave his side ever. When we used to go out, she’d always say to me ‘Why are you wearing this or that, you always show me up.’ Problem was she would doll up & I’d dress simple but I’d get the attention. I’ve asked her to go out dressed as air hostesses etc for a laugh & she said ‘god no – you will show us up.’

We went for food & she kept on about her guy (which is fine) but I can’t talk about my break up at all.
She invited me to the Royal Ballet so I said ok. I asked her why she asked me & she said nobody else wanted to go. I dressed in red and black, she turned up in jeans. She said ‘What the hell are you wearing, you look ridiculous.’ My dad heard her and she got embarrassed. Her guy told me I looked lovely and she said ‘Yes always overdresses.’ Everybody at the ballet was dressed like me & she said ‘well don’t you look stupid’ and laughed at me. I couldn’t believe she was so ignorant. After she invited me for food, then changed her mind, she want to be with her guy and 3 is uncomfortable.

She had a party & rang me. I couldn’t go cos meeting brother’s fiancé. She shouted ‘I’m pissed off with you, you’re meant to be my pal. I found out none of her pals turned up & she was only girl. Next day she said “You are not my maid of honor any more cos I haven’t seen you much. She asked her ex room mate of 1 year to do it (who is also 10yrs younger) instead. I was amazed cos been asking her to see me loads lately. She then said ‘Also you’re not a bridesmaid either.’

It was 1st birthday alone; she wouldn’t leave her guy so she invited me up. She said ‘You don’t understand, when you’re in a relationship, you want to be them all the time.’ I said to her ‘I know, I was engaged 8yrs’ but her fiancé said ‘Wait till your in a relationship, you will see.’ He said I wasn’t engaged and it wasn’t real, so I said I had a ring & he seemed quite put out. He started giving me advice on relationships, he is 21! I am 29 and getting told what to do by a kid.
He said “We have booked our honeymoon’ & “he would NEVER cheat, they will be together 4ever.”

I said had a miscarriage & can’t have kids so her fiancé said – ‘being parents is most important thing ever, we want loads. She txt me next day saying we’re off abroad, see you later. I asked her why is she being mean and she replied ‘Your just a jealous *****, don’t bother coming to the wedding.’

They visited me and she said ‘she was so sorry. I made them tea & then said cos I can’t have kids would I rent my house to them cos her mum is kicking them out. I said ‘you didn’t want to see me then just the house?’ My pal looked sad and said ‘Don’t be silly.’ She takes 3 days to text me back. Now I just text her saying ‘want to catch up n go out and she said ‘Sorry go so much to do, spending all my free time decorating so cant see you sorry.’

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I was engaged for 8yrs & saw my pals loads. I would always be out with her & maybe go home at 12 to see my fiance. He eventually cheated, I was devastated & rang my pal to tell her. She said she didn’t like him anyway & for me not to talk about him. I only mentioned him once & she said ‘Shhh Don’t mention it, I don’t want to know, cos I’m getting married. She was only dating for a month& he is 10 yrs younger than her (his 1st girlfriend) I have asked her out loads but she doesn’t leave his side ever. When we used to go out, she’d always say to me ‘Why are you wearing this or that, you always show me up.’ Problem was she would doll up & I’d dress simple but I’d get the attention. I’ve asked her to go out dressed as air hostesses etc for a laugh & she said ‘god no – you will show us up.’

We went for food & she kept on about her guy (which is fine) but I can’t talk about my break up at all.
She invited me to the Royal Ballet so I said ok. I asked her why she asked me & she said nobody else wanted to go. I dressed in red and black, she turned up in jeans. She said ‘What the hell are you wearing, you look ridiculous.’ My dad heard her and she got embarrassed. Her guy told me I looked lovely and she said ‘Yes always overdresses.’ Everybody at the ballet was dressed like me & she said ‘well don’t you look stupid’ and laughed at me. I couldn’t believe she was so ignorant. After she invited me for food, then changed her mind, she want to be with her guy and 3 is uncomfortable.

She had a party & rang me. I couldn’t go cos meeting brother’s fiancé. She shouted ‘I’m pissed off with you, you’re meant to be my pal. I found out none of her pals turned up & she was only girl. Next day she said “You are not my maid of honor any more cos I haven’t seen you much. She asked her ex room mate of 1 year to do it (who is also 10yrs younger) instead. I was amazed cos been asking her to see me loads lately. She then said ‘Also you’re not a bridesmaid either.’

It was 1st birthday alone; she wouldn’t leave her guy so she invited me up. She said ‘You don’t understand, when you’re in a relationship, you want to be them all the time.’ I said to her ‘I know, I was engaged 8yrs’ but her fiancé said ‘Wait till your in a relationship, you will see.’ He said I wasn’t engaged and it wasn’t real, so I said I had a ring & he seemed quite put out. He started giving me advice on relationships, he is 21! I am 29 and getting told what to do by a kid.
He said “We have booked our honeymoon’ & “he would NEVER cheat, they will be together 4ever.”

I said had a miscarriage & can’t have kids so her fiancé said – ‘being parents is most important thing ever, we want loads. She txt me next day saying we’re off abroad, see you later. I asked her why is she being mean and she replied ‘Your just a jealous *****, don’t bother coming to the wedding.’

They visited me and she said ‘she was so sorry. I made them tea & then said cos I can’t have kids would I rent my house to them cos her mum is kicking them out. I said ‘you didn’t want to see me then just the house?’ My pal looked sad and said ‘Don’t be silly.’

My mum died when I was 12 years old and my dad and I were devastated because she died suddenly. After about one year and a half I realized my dad was not happy so I gave him my blessing to start dating again that was the only way he would. He went out with one woman and she was the nicest woman ever apart from my mum. She was like a big sister she took me out to the cinema and was really nice but they broke up. A few week later he met his now wife, I did not like her when I met her. She is VERY pushy and likes to moan and b***h about everything. But she made my dad happy so I kept my mouth shut. He proposed and took her to pick out a ring and the ring she wanted was my mothers ring I told her she was not going to use it so my dad bought her a nice ring. The next 4 months she was planning the wedding and wanted me to be her maid of honor but I said no politely because I wanted to be my dads best woman. The wedding went okay but she did not like the fact that I wore a locket my mum bought for me when I was younger. After they got married she would refer to me as her daughter and told me to start calling her mum. My grandad (my mums dad) came over to give me a few presents for my birthday and she was rude to him. She erased my mum from the house completely. I talked to my dad about it and he said that I could keep my mums stuff in my room. I did that but she flipped out and said why was she not good enough for me and I told her calmly that no one would ever replace my mum and all I want is for her to be my friend. I started going out with my mums best friends son Joey and he helped me out a bit. I hoped for a while that they would break up but she got pregnant and they had a son Jonah. Now she is pregnant again. I am not a happy big sister every time I look at Jonah I see her and I don’t love him no matter how hard I try. I really hate her and I know hate is a strong word but she really is not a nice woman. I can’t ask my dad to leave her because I have just turned 16 and I will be gone soon and now they have kids together. I am really thinking about moving out I have started looking at renting a place. What do you guys think.
I have tried talking to them it does not work. They are having a girl this time and I do not feel love t-words this baby either. I have already got 10 thousand saved from birthdays Christmas Communion and confirmation. I have a babysitting job also and I would love to work with kids when I am older.