How can I get her to help me? Why is she so mean??? I need help and she wont help me.?
My pal of has just had her fiancé cheat and leave her. She was with him 8yrs & split her time between us. She stood me up once or twice cos of his family, she never visited me in Uni miles away. She should have got her dad to bring her. I rang her when my pals were busy and got angry when she couldnt make it. She once said ‘Not my fault I’m in a relationship and your not.’
When I found out her fiancé had cheated, she rang me crying. I said ‘I didn’t like him anyway; don’t talk about him’ She was devastated cos I’d never allow her to talk of it. I told her I’m getting married after 2 months dating. My guy & I had a New Years party & none of my pals came so I asked her. She said she couldn’t cos meeting her brother’s fiancé for first time. I shouted ‘I’m pissed off with you, you’re meant to be my pal.’ She said it was 1st yr without her fiancé & didn’t want to upset my night by being unhappy so I shouted ‘have some bloody funs for once!’ Was fed up that I was only girl so I met her for coffee and said “you are not my maid of honor any more cos I haven’t seen you much” I asked my ex room mate of 1 year to do it instead. My pal said she wanted to help me with wedding etc but I said no. It was her 1st Birthday without him; she wanted to go out but Im not leaving my guy so I invited her up. I explained ‘You don’t understand that when you’re in a relationship, you want to be them all the time.’ She just looked at me and said ‘I know, I was engaged 8yrs and looked very confused at me.’ So I said ‘wait until you’re in a relationship & then you’d understand.
My fiancé told her “we have booked our honeymoon and told her “he would NEVER cheat on me cos I’m beautiful, and we’ll be together 4ever.” I told her all about the wedding and what the bridesmaids are wearing and my maid of honor – the beautiful dress I got her. Then at 10:30 I said “bedtime, did you have a nice birthday? When we got up in morning, she had gone leaving a note saying ‘thanks for a lovely birthday.’ My hen night, she wanted to share a cab on way home but my guy was with us so I said ‘would she mind going alone’. She walked home alone.
I txt her next day saying Guess what, we’re off to grand can aria, see you later. She said it wasn’t nice so I replied ‘Your just a jealous *****, don’t bother coming to the wedding.’ We made it up. I told her I want a baby soon, she said she had a miscarriage n cant have them so my fiancé said – ‘ we wants loads.’
Mum is kicking us out after wedding so I said we need to rent her home cos family house & she is single and can’t have kids so we need it. She can have a nice flat somewhere. My wedding went well, couldn’t speak much cos busy but did see her for 10 mins. Such a wonderful day, my pals stood by me at alters, gathered for photos etc. She kept in background cos bridal party only in pics. Been friends 20yrs – why wont sh help?