Here is my issue. I am getting married in a few months and the time has come to find bridesmaid dresses.
I have 8 in total, my sister being the MOH. I have found a lovely boutique shop and the dresses start at £400 a pop, but the owner said if I buy all the dresses from her she will discount them to £100 (inc alterations) each as I am paying for them this truly helps me.
The issue is my sister, I told her that she can pick any dress that she likes so long as it’s in the wedding colours and it has to be from that shop because of the very special discount.
My sister said she does not suit our wedding colours so she wanted ivory- I said I was in ivory so she needed to pick one of the two wedding colours we have- which she said is not fair.
Today I called her to confirm the appointment we have at the weekend, it is the first time all the bridesmaids are coming together so I said I felt a little nervous about everything and I want everybody to enjoy it. She then said that she found a dress that she wanted in a different shop, I told her because of the deal we needed to keep everything at one store. She went crazy at me, not just a bit crazy but very- she said that if she didn’t have the dress that she wanted then I could stick it and she would not be any part of my wedding.
I was her MOH for her wedding, and I basically went with whatever she wanted because it was her day. I told her that she had over 30 styles to pick from in the store, and I’m sure we could find something she liked, but she was not having any of it. I was so hurt by her saying if she didn’t get the dress that she wanted that she was not going to be part of my wedding- I hung up on her. Since then, I’ve been feeling very down and spent the day crying. My sister was such a bridezilla on her wedding- but it was her day and I bite my tongue, even when she said some very untrue nasty things about me to her wedding guests when I told her I couldn’t afford much more for her wedding day as it was racking up – I had just taken a pay cut in order to stay in my job and she was demanding I spend more and more money.
She had a guest list for her wedding and listed out the things that she wanted which was her choice. My fiancé and I have a honeymoon fund, since we have lived together for a few years we have all we need for the home, so if people want to get us anything we would love them to contribute to that. My sister said she will not contribute and refuses to do that- even though I bought exactly what was on her list that she wanted- she said she is against it, so I said she didn’t have to get me anything.
My whole life I pretty much gave into her, but this time I told her I am not backing down. My fiancé has said that he has had enough of her brat ways and if she was not going to be there to celebrate marriage, she can stay at home.
After this morning- I think my sister and I are done. I think if she is willing to make demands about herself rather than be there for me, I don’t want her to be there. The problem is my mum, she says it upsets her if we were not to talk, and I understand that, and truly am sorry for that, but this is the one and only day I want things to have mine and my fiancés swing on things- we are paying for the whole wedding ourselves – she had her day and she had it the way she wanted it. Now the question is, do I have her there at all?
Thank you for everybody who responded with your very kind words of support. All I really want is for everybody to enjoy this time with me. I’m very shocked at my sister’s words today, and no matter what happens I truly will never feel the same about her again if she would bail out on me over a dress. It is like a mirror that has been broken, it will never be the same again.
I sense she is very insecure as she is slightly bigger, but if she knew me at all she would understand I would not put her in something because that’s how it is. Of course I want her to feel her best and at the same time I want everybody to look amazing in the pictures and their happiness to shine through that.
However, like all things to do with a wedding there is a uniform in the bridal party- to show they are ‘part of the bridal party’. There comes a point where I have to draw the line, I’m not so good at doing that but I need to regain control over how my fiancé and I want to remember our day. Ultimately
Thanks for your reply.
I had hoped that my sister would have called to apologise but she has not. I am very disappointed at her screaming at me yesterday- I’ve replayed the situation again and again, I would almost be easier to take if I had yelled at her but I didn’t.
My fiancé and I have decided that it is better for both of us that my sister is not MOH- as MOH I just want love and support, to support our day and just for 1 day only not be about her. To tell me that she did not to be in my wedding has hurt me a lot we have been enaged for over a year now and our wedding is a mere few months away, I have no idea that she would blow at me like this. I need to try and get my head around that. Wedding colours have nothing to do with a marriage but they do for a wedding, and uniform is only in colour as I said that all the girls can pick their own style of dresses just in one of two colours. I’ve had no other problems with any of the other girls, so much so they have said they don’t
My sister is aware how upset I am- I would have loved to have shared Saturday with her choosing a great dress that she felt super confident and excited in, because really I know out of 30 styles that was so possible. IF by the very slim chance we didnt find the right dress for her in that shop we could have spoken about it after. I think she should have gone there with a postive open mind and shared this expreience with me. When we choose my MOH dress she told me the shop I needed to go to, I turned up and she picked out the dress. It just takes a bit of working together

Bay Area Wedding Fair at Grand Hyatt in San Francisco.

We’ve been watching Fair City for a while now and we’re getting sick of it. We never liked it anyway but it’s even worse now with that Paul only just getting married but ends up having it off with his dead wife’s sister who’s also a lesbian in a hotel room while his new wife’s mother was only killed a few months ago in the sidecar of a motorbike on her wedding day.
Then you’ve got this Mayor of Carrickstown rubbish as well. It’s enough to make you want to go to bed and never get up.

They should bring back Glenroe and git rid of Fair City. We still miss Biddy, Miley, Dick, Mary and Teasie. Sher Denisheen must be in her 20s by now. Sunday nights at half eight have never been the same without it.
Mel: Sher we used to have dreams about Maggie Riordan. That Benji was a lucky fecker.

There’s a whole host of wedding fairs taking place this weekend, meaning that exhibitors may need distinctive banner stands to get them noticed by courting couples.

Vintage Chic Wedding Fairs – Vintage with a modern twist is the perfect way to describe their events, they bring together the finest selection of vintage and chic suppliers. Their events are perfect for the bride to be who is looking for unique special pieces for a stylish wedding day. The Vintage Chic Wedding Fairs are totally relaxed and friendly and their upcoming events are at the following locations: East Bridgford Hill, Nottingham Sunday 26th June 2011, 12 noon – 5.00pm and The Old Library at the Custard Factory Birmingham B9 4AA Sunday 23rd October 2011, 11.30am – 4.30pm To keep up to date please visit their website – www.vintagechicweddingfair.co.uk Elegant vocals by Simon Partridge – http Filmed at the Vintage Chic Wedding Fair on 30th January 2011 – The Old Library at the Custard Factory Birmingham B9 4AA, United Kingdom.